It’s Not About You

I wonder about relationships and people.
It seems that we pick and choose who and how much involvement we'll give to others based on some flimsy fantasy of information instead of the real thing. We let our maybe's decide for us.

We choose not to start or deepen a relationship with someone because of their labels of who they are now. We think to ourselves, this person won't accept me because they're whatever their chosen labels are.
I do it all the time. I choose not to get involved with certain people because I think they'll judge me for my choices. I mean, after all, do I willingly want to enter into a relationship, even a casual one, with someone who will be judging me?

The answer is, no, I don't. Is it fair? No, not at all. So why then do I get so very disappointed by people who won't enter into relationships with me, knowing that it's most likely due to my life labels or their past experiences with me?

Maybe it's because I look back at who I've been over the years and who I am now and can see the difference. It's funny really, because I know both so much more and so much less. I guess I just finally know that I don't know. I finally realize how pointless it is for me to be making any judgements on anyone for any reason. My desire is to live a life of grace, mercy, compassion, acceptance, love, patience, kindness, gratitude, forgiveness, and understanding.

I'm quite sure I'll never "achieve" it, but I'm happy to be working at it.