The View From Here

24 hours can do a lot for a person.

I got a sound sleep, and some needed reassurance.

I had two "professionals" in the land of children say to me, you're doing ok. Don't sweat the stuff that's going on. You're doing your best, seeking out the care they need, and they're happy and safe. Keep it up. What the little's are doing is perfectly normal for them.

It brings me back around to what I knew all along. The most important part of being a parent is showing up and loving hard. A parent's job is all day, all night, every day and every night until one party leaves this earth. The second part is love them hard. When a child is just come into the world it seems so easy to think you'll always be able to see the best in them and it will always be an easy, almost unthinkable thing to fully love your child. Somewhere along the way, they grow, you find out their quirks and issues, you worry and fear and suddenly, love gets hard. Maybe the love part doesn't get hard, but the people part does. Sometimes it's hard to love a person when they're doing certain things. Sometimes some people are just hard to love. The thing is, a parent gets beyond all that noise and keeps on loving.

A parent advocates and does what it takes to get their child what they need. Not indulging them and giving them everything they want, but simply making sure that they get the things, services, etc. that they need. A parent makes sure there are plenty of opportunities for the child to learn and grow and one day, be grown. There are after all, a lot of adults, who aren't grown.

So, anyway, a day makes a difference. Here's looking at a month of case workers, therapists, doctors, specialists, birth parents, legal aides, lesson, sports, Bible study groups and paperwork. And you know what, for a change it looks pretty good.